Why I’m ‘Giving Up’ My Goal of Losing Weight (Right When I’ve Achieved It)

On August 31st, I will officially complete my goal of becoming my perfect weight, shape, and fitness level. It’s a goal 20 years in the making. I’ve always been ‘big-boned’ and ‘someone who liked meat and potatoes’. I have an early memory of someone my dad was buying bales of hay from commenting on meContinue reading “Why I’m ‘Giving Up’ My Goal of Losing Weight (Right When I’ve Achieved It)”

Why it’s okay to feel how you feel — and why you should move past it

It’s okay to feel tired. Sad. Scared. Tired again. It’s alright to read too much news, talk about things you can’t change, and eat junk food. It’s fine to play too many games and watch all the TV. It’s okay not to be okay. But what comes next? After. Above and beyond this moment? WhatContinue reading “Why it’s okay to feel how you feel — and why you should move past it”

The Ocean is Still Out There, Magnificent and Wide

It had been over 20 years since I had seen a beach. I had had good intentions several times over the past few years (“We’ll go for my birthday”; “Let’s cerebrate New Year’s on the beach, watching the sun rise”) but each time bad weather, illness, holiday retail worker craziness, or just the idea ofContinue reading “The Ocean is Still Out There, Magnificent and Wide”

To Honor the Failing Darkness

Trying new things is hard. Returning to old things is hard. Doing anything worth doing is probably hard. 😉 But as the darkness of ignorance falls away we become more comfortable, less afraid, less annoyed.  The new is always challenging, which is why we rush past it — getting to know that new boyfriend, wantingContinue reading “To Honor the Failing Darkness”

Why I Write Fantasy: A Post About Possibilities, Magic, and He-Man

“Why did you pick that genre? Why fantasy?” It is almost a strange question to me, like ‘Why do you breathe air?’ Though of course, sometimes I don’t breathe air — sometimes I hold my breath and swim deep into the seas of historical fiction or Gothic romance. But I always resurface soon enough, alwaysContinue reading “Why I Write Fantasy: A Post About Possibilities, Magic, and He-Man”

A Year of Change in Review: Let’s Be Honest

So, I really want to have a knock-down, drag-out with 2016 to figure out what happened, what went wrong, and how to make 2017 amazing. I know a lot of people who have had similarly adversarial relationships with this past year. That said, when I get honest I sometimes depress people by talking about theContinue reading “A Year of Change in Review: Let’s Be Honest”

Moment: A Poem

We, by nature, are creatures of want, creatures of need.  We need shelter, food, and even, I would argue, we need love. Our wants of course, are endless.  From the noblest desire for world peace to the hope of people ‘liking’ and ‘sharing’ our latest online pic, there is no limit to our wants. ‘More’Continue reading “Moment: A Poem”

Struggle As Adventure

Strug·gle verb make forceful or violent efforts to get free of restraint or constriction. strive to achieve or attain something in the face of difficulty or resistance. have difficulty handling or coping with. engage in conflict. make one’s way with difficulty. Struggle doesn’t sound like fun.  Maybe, it doesn’t even sound right — if you’reContinue reading “Struggle As Adventure”

The Inelegant Balance Between Being Right and Becoming Better

Now, we all want to be right — to be smart, admired, to think for ourselves and not let anything sway our convictions.  But at a certain point does certainty inhibit progress? I’ve been asking myself this question a lot this year.  Firstly, as I move forward toward becoming a professional writer, I have startedContinue reading “The Inelegant Balance Between Being Right and Becoming Better”

How to Tune Out the Noise

I recently led a class about ‘How to Reevaluate Your Life’.  Some readers will remember that I’ve talked about this topic a couple of times before and so I felt pretty confident.  I printed handouts, talked for over an hour, and thought I’d covered my bases pretty well.  Then — during the Q & AContinue reading “How to Tune Out the Noise”